They always say three is a crowd, but it is also a party. One could assume the same could only apply for the ménage à trois, right?

Although a tantalizing threesome in bed tops many men’s fantasies, the communication culminating to the romp is key. Communication before this tremendous trifecta is important for all parties involved, even if there is not an established couple involved. Laying down the rules, or the do’s and don’t, can prevent this session from going limp or feelings of jealousy, insecurity or guilt from erecting. Trusting your partners is key. Let them know your limits and desired outcomes. For some couples, it is common to feel uncomfortable allowing someone else to kiss, orally pleasure or penetrate their partner. If this is the case, everyone must respect the rules for success. Once communication is established, the lovers involved can better navigate through the sea of lust without sinking ship.

It is easy to concentrate most of your time on the most desired partner (or significant other), but this is a mistake to avoid. Your partners want to please each other just as much as they want to please you, so be generous. Set aside romantic feelings and keep your hands, mouth and whatever available/willing orifices busy at all times. The addition will change the dynamics of sex, so it’s key to look at this love pile as a cycle that comes full circle.

As lovers, we are inclined to want to pay as much attention to whomever we are currently laying, but stay focused on pleasing both partners at once. If you are busy receiving, make sure you are actively giving in some form. The extra stimulation could lead to early results.

Drinking your way into bravery is not suggested. Not only will you be overwhelmed with the extra two legs, arms and other erotic areas, but quality intercourse does not happen after ten shots of Jose Cuervo. Have a few drinks to loosen up, but keep it minimal, you do not want this potentially exciting experience to end without your inhibitions in tact. Also, nothing is less salacious than holding someone’s hair on the bathroom floor after a failed group ride.

Stay open-minded to the experience. This might seem obvious to someone who is experimental or curious enough to conquer this endeavor, though, allowing yourself to enjoy sensations you might not have enjoyed before will broaden your sexual identity.